What kind of education is a good education?
Some people say: Spare punished the child. Nobody ran them in their childhood. They survived and now they're good people. Others warn that strict upbringing gloomy holiday marks on the child. Obedience is not a stroke of luck, will he grow up one day and goes out into the world of adults.
Where is the middle ground, the formation of proper training is? Especially- and even for our child who is so idiosyncratic (wild, headstrong, non-authoritarian, fast, slow ... spare any) to work? How education can not solve?
I beg your pardon - Non-education?
Approach for the kids, which is widespread in our country under the title of non-education, has nothing in common with free education "American". He does not recommend policy to - I set firm rules and you must stay with them at the same time it is not for liberalization you think a child, I do not intervene.
"Non-Education is a partnership approach Some parents are shocked when they hear the word partnership -.?. I'm going to dance to his music, but when I say, partnership, I mean mutual partnership, if the child is my partner, it does not mean , it is the center of the universe and everything revolves around him. Parents who I am I also a partner and my peace of mind is just as important as the fulfillment of a child. mutual partnership looks like no one has to decide here and living in reduced circumstances we can agree on everything, and we both are satisfied, "says Dr. Kate Krall, writer, non-pedagogical principles.
Uncontrollable child? It is often a big misunderstanding
How to come to an agreement with a child is out of control? I told him a hundred times. I tried everything, by hook or by crook. Nothing works. My child is really different. It is only yourself, do not expect anything "Verified" a lot with him.
Yes, recommendations and reliable instructions each time to work. This is exactly why your child is "different". Similarly mother (or father) is different. And just as unique is the situation in which you. With your child For non-training therefore do not reflect parents' guide to a child, "and do not try to convince them that there is only one correct answer. It helps them to see themselves and also in a situational in a child and their own solution.
If someone you need advice, just what you should say to your child or to do maybe it will work in 50% of cases. And then there are the other 50% of the cases in which it does not. That's why we bring the parents understand what is wrong with them, as in fact. When a child, and I understand the situation, so I will easily solve the problem with everything. And I must not, without seeking someone do me a piece of advice, or something, I'm not convinced. For example, smacking the buttocks. Parents often take a chance, this is not the right thing, but they are angry, powerless and to take up their feelings. And sometimes it starts like a vicious circle. I know from personal experience that most problems only comes from a lack of understanding, I do not understand what the child wants and he does not understand me, "Kate Krall said.
She has worked with children with disabilities in the past, with gifted children, as head of the subsidiary of the Caisse vulnerable children and with children and families "problem" in a difficult situation. "It works everywhere, and we can teach you that in the areas of education, no," she dares to say. "We know how to agree on everything, no problems with our little boy and young woman among youngsters. No wild puberty or contempt are not required."
The speech is silver, silence is golden
"It is not enough to tell parents how they should do it that way. Therefore, we do not assume any statement in similar discussions give them. Let us recall how many times someone tells you what you should these people to DO you always know better to listen to him, perhaps because he had agreed, but you have changed anything, "said Kate Krall and continuous.:
"It is one thing to talk about is the other thing to live through them in your own skin and start making practical. That's why we the parents in our courses to their own experiences. Simple practical tasks, but effective As an important part to meet you. a situation from the child's perspective, you will never beat her face in a similar situation, but perhaps come to him and say, "Now I am very angry, I tremble at my whole body, I need it to be different next time. "And then you feel like."
When kids do crazy things
Now back to intoductory contribution of an Internet discussion mother. "Even if your child is the craziest thing, for example, he has a tantrum, screaming or biting you, it always has a reason to do so. Of course he does something you do not like, and with that somehow must deal I do not mean to say that, or leave everything but a child tries to say something at the time, when you hit it, or say it is not good to do, tell him actually... "I know you do not understand, but keep your mouth shut. "And you never know. You have to understand together what it means. And then just change communication style," says Kate Krall.
Isn during a remote? You can quickly change to non-formation within a few days to one week. You need to be determined and go for it. Once the child is the new way to communicate, we are at home, and we will dry.It stop a tantrum because nobody understands it and begins to cooperate.
A story for all
And what about the whole "magic" look like in practice? Maybe like this:
"Mike (16 months old) slipped into a booth, his grandmother was of course on his heels. He took out a broom and wanted. Grandma complained that it too big for him, he can hit his head against something will fall cry. . and he said no, not my grandmother yelled at me in despair: ". Pete, tell him something, just beat the buttocks, he will not obey "(I had the feeling that he obeys and plays on top of that.)
Follow my bold sentence: "So try to agree with him on that somehow" "Okay Oh my God, it's a child does not understand me, he does not speak ...."?
I got came off the bench to rest, to a cabin and she knelt before Mike: "Mike, my grandmother might not want the broom outside Perhaps she is with this sweeping try to take that inside, ask if you really get.. "
"Mike has his" Hm, "to me, turned around with a broom to the grandmother, the question did his" Hm, "the grandmother and nodded once. Grandma got up and was stunned and nodded. Mike came up with enthusiasm and began to touch his springboard.
Some people say: Spare punished the child. Nobody ran them in their childhood. They survived and now they're good people. Others warn that strict upbringing gloomy holiday marks on the child. Obedience is not a stroke of luck, will he grow up one day and goes out into the world of adults.
Where is the middle ground, the formation of proper training is? Especially- and even for our child who is so idiosyncratic (wild, headstrong, non-authoritarian, fast, slow ... spare any) to work? How education can not solve?
I beg your pardon - Non-education?
Approach for the kids, which is widespread in our country under the title of non-education, has nothing in common with free education "American". He does not recommend policy to - I set firm rules and you must stay with them at the same time it is not for liberalization you think a child, I do not intervene.
"Non-Education is a partnership approach Some parents are shocked when they hear the word partnership -.?. I'm going to dance to his music, but when I say, partnership, I mean mutual partnership, if the child is my partner, it does not mean , it is the center of the universe and everything revolves around him. Parents who I am I also a partner and my peace of mind is just as important as the fulfillment of a child. mutual partnership looks like no one has to decide here and living in reduced circumstances we can agree on everything, and we both are satisfied, "says Dr. Kate Krall, writer, non-pedagogical principles.
Uncontrollable child? It is often a big misunderstanding
How to come to an agreement with a child is out of control? I told him a hundred times. I tried everything, by hook or by crook. Nothing works. My child is really different. It is only yourself, do not expect anything "Verified" a lot with him.
Yes, recommendations and reliable instructions each time to work. This is exactly why your child is "different". Similarly mother (or father) is different. And just as unique is the situation in which you. With your child For non-training therefore do not reflect parents' guide to a child, "and do not try to convince them that there is only one correct answer. It helps them to see themselves and also in a situational in a child and their own solution.
If someone you need advice, just what you should say to your child or to do maybe it will work in 50% of cases. And then there are the other 50% of the cases in which it does not. That's why we bring the parents understand what is wrong with them, as in fact. When a child, and I understand the situation, so I will easily solve the problem with everything. And I must not, without seeking someone do me a piece of advice, or something, I'm not convinced. For example, smacking the buttocks. Parents often take a chance, this is not the right thing, but they are angry, powerless and to take up their feelings. And sometimes it starts like a vicious circle. I know from personal experience that most problems only comes from a lack of understanding, I do not understand what the child wants and he does not understand me, "Kate Krall said.
She has worked with children with disabilities in the past, with gifted children, as head of the subsidiary of the Caisse vulnerable children and with children and families "problem" in a difficult situation. "It works everywhere, and we can teach you that in the areas of education, no," she dares to say. "We know how to agree on everything, no problems with our little boy and young woman among youngsters. No wild puberty or contempt are not required."
The speech is silver, silence is golden
"It is not enough to tell parents how they should do it that way. Therefore, we do not assume any statement in similar discussions give them. Let us recall how many times someone tells you what you should these people to DO you always know better to listen to him, perhaps because he had agreed, but you have changed anything, "said Kate Krall and continuous.:
"It is one thing to talk about is the other thing to live through them in your own skin and start making practical. That's why we the parents in our courses to their own experiences. Simple practical tasks, but effective As an important part to meet you. a situation from the child's perspective, you will never beat her face in a similar situation, but perhaps come to him and say, "Now I am very angry, I tremble at my whole body, I need it to be different next time. "And then you feel like."
When kids do crazy things
Now back to intoductory contribution of an Internet discussion mother. "Even if your child is the craziest thing, for example, he has a tantrum, screaming or biting you, it always has a reason to do so. Of course he does something you do not like, and with that somehow must deal I do not mean to say that, or leave everything but a child tries to say something at the time, when you hit it, or say it is not good to do, tell him actually... "I know you do not understand, but keep your mouth shut. "And you never know. You have to understand together what it means. And then just change communication style," says Kate Krall.
Isn during a remote? You can quickly change to non-formation within a few days to one week. You need to be determined and go for it. Once the child is the new way to communicate, we are at home, and we will dry.It stop a tantrum because nobody understands it and begins to cooperate.
A story for all
And what about the whole "magic" look like in practice? Maybe like this:
"Mike (16 months old) slipped into a booth, his grandmother was of course on his heels. He took out a broom and wanted. Grandma complained that it too big for him, he can hit his head against something will fall cry. . and he said no, not my grandmother yelled at me in despair: ". Pete, tell him something, just beat the buttocks, he will not obey "(I had the feeling that he obeys and plays on top of that.)
Follow my bold sentence: "So try to agree with him on that somehow" "Okay Oh my God, it's a child does not understand me, he does not speak ...."?
I got came off the bench to rest, to a cabin and she knelt before Mike: "Mike, my grandmother might not want the broom outside Perhaps she is with this sweeping try to take that inside, ask if you really get.. "
"Mike has his" Hm, "to me, turned around with a broom to the grandmother, the question did his" Hm, "the grandmother and nodded once. Grandma got up and was stunned and nodded. Mike came up with enthusiasm and began to touch his springboard.
